Ever met someone articulating goals
passionately, yet not moving forward over time, changing goals often, shooting
down possibilities, or quite adroitly presenting themselves as victims of
circumstances? Very likely that one is dealing with someone with outsmarting
syndrome.
All of us have some goals or a
purpose, though some are aware and others are not. How we make progress towards
them depends on how well we self-articulate them, and take consonant and
consistent action. More often than not, non-awareness is relatively a better
state to be in, rather than high awareness unsupported by action and even worse
is stronger counter-thinking to destroy action. With quite a few that I coach,
I find this quite rampant.
The genesis of destructive emotion
of regret lies right here in our justifications with our own selves for either
counter arguing with our inner beliefs to suppress them, or justifying
inaction. These may be asymptomatic for long, or, may show up through
irregularity, denial, procrastination, ridicule, defensive attitude, stubbornness
or overconfidence.
Outsmarting is a limiting behaviour and
keeps one from moving forward. It nearly acts like antibodies that begin
killing productive cells by suppression, dominance or infecting them. We
generate, and nourish such way of thinking that defeats every productive
thought with a view to win over an argument or positive idea and feel victorious.
The cacophony created by the distortions gains damaging proportions and quite
certainly leads to repentance or regret later when one finds himself quite far
from his desired goals. Change does cause discomfort, and most with this
syndrome derail faster than others, and slip back to comfort zones.
It is therefore, a good idea to seek
help, self- explore blind spots and take massive action to overpower barriers. Being
aware that outsmarting only hurts back while we enjoy this self- destructive
victory, is a good point to begin the process of change. This new-year vacation
is a good time to sit back and mull over your thoughts and actions against your
goals and conclude decisively on future course. A well thought out plan could
well shape up much more productive resolution for the new-year. Getting a coach
to help could be one strong building block in the direction. To know how
coachable you are, do visit www.thegrowthevangelist.com
and write back to Dr. Alok Purohit. Wish you a very happy and exciting new
year.
Nice blog...keep it up.
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