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Friday, 29 August 2014
Everybody in life wants to be a success. Success, no matter what it may connote to you or me, by and large results in more happiness, more fulfilment, rewards, money and the like. There is no one definition of success. It means different things to different people. One person’s definition may be totally different to another’s.
Your definition of what success actually is can change as well. One thing that is common amongst everyone is that everyone wants to be a success and nothing in life is better than success! Just take time out and think what success actually means to you.
Write your definition of what success is in the space below or on a piece of paper. Do not carry on reading this until you have done so.
Just write down..
If you haven’t filled in the above space do it now! Don’t cheat yourself! Sometimes you really need to have a good think about what is important to you when you define what success means. More often than not, people get swayed by loss of focus and clarity, losing sight of what they actually want and venture into undesired terrains due to comparisons, peer pressure, and superficial demonstration of being successful. The time for this discovery is now or never.
Thursday, 28 August 2014
As a business leader it is important to understand that it is a dire need for all growing professionals to build succession to unshackle their growth and have businesses running with minimum or no involvement in daily chores. It is gaining a new dimension in the leadership as it is about ‘creating’ productive time for one to drive well thought of strategy and structural initiatives rather than daily routines for larger success.
Most entrepreneurs and business leaders fall into the trap when they get obsessed with their ownership of domains for long and do not build and entrust the successors voluntarily, unless they either become slave to their businesses and executive roles, or start losing their streaks for lack of fresh thinking. This then results into a plateau that is not very easily broken. Most of such businesses then get into the rut of low growths and insufficiency of ideation for long periods, deoxygenating the organisation with lowering or tapering of profitability, low esteem within the organisation and its team members, and creating opportunities for competition to catch up.
The similarity and predictability of organisational activity leads to boredom, loss of interest and enthusiasm among the team members who have high ambition to grow and results into higher attrition when such opportunities are either denied or not created with intent to grow such talent.
As organisations scale up, the lack of succession leads to overburdening the engines, viz.. the leadership teams, and create direct impact on their efficiency, direction, focus, work life balance and ultimately the equilibrium in their lives. This can potentially derail their business, health, family, social and spiritual facets of their lives. It is recommended that most of these people take cognizance of this issue earlier than later.
Tuesday, 26 August 2014
Is your mission statement just about success; or it is about why you are here on earth.
Ever thought of writing your own obituary? Sounds bizarre? But much more bizarre could be the discovery that a plain vanilla static life with success but no fulfilment takes one nowhere. This may be worthwhile to try.
This is an ultimate technique to get you to reflect about what you want to do in your life time. Act as if you have just passed on; think about your achievements, your life’s work and what you have done for others in your lifetime. What will you be remembered for, when you pass on? Write your own obituary of what your life was about and what difference it made.
This may shake up for a while but will help resolve to a future with clear priorities for fulfilment.
Sunday, 24 August 2014
I have always propagated that coaching cannot be bought or sold. It's an experience one has to undergo and find his own purpose for hiring a coach. Here are a dozen tell tale signs when one may like to connect with a professional coach.
1. Have a desire, or a goal you very strongly feel about achieving.
2. Find it difficult to get along with people around you or vice versa.
3. Confused about the goal or feeling like achieving an alternative low hanging one.
4. Feeling negative, unconfident, doubtful about yourself at critical moments.
5. The momentum towards the goal is slowing down with time.
6. Feel unsecured about bouncing off your views to someone.
7. Deep down, feel like you can, but strange, undefined feelings keep you from moving.
8. Have a history of making resolutions and giving up mid way.
9. Feel like doing multiple things at a time and experiencing limited upsides.
10. Unable to see the holistic view of your life on social, emotional, family, professional, financial and spiritual aspects, and feel one or more is experiencing turbulence.
11. Achieved success but unexplained fear keeps you from being at peace.
12. Procrastinating on big, necessary, inevitable, life changing decisions.
These are profession agnostic signs and anyone irrespective may feel the need for their own turning point in life. Knowing that right decisions on direction have a time value and compounding effect, it may be a good idea, not to wait and seek assistance from a professional. It is only when the desire, goal, action and integrity congregate, lasting coach and coachee relationships happen and immense value created.
Wednesday, 20 August 2014
For some belief systems, and some fears, most people do not possess the skill to say NO to things that they do not like to agree or do. Most recently I discovered during an interaction that nearly 8 out of nine people at a social engagement responded likewise when i asked them why they cannot stand tall and disagree or say NO. Many of these also had a negative connotation of this skill while it may not be essentially true.
The most common reason assigned was fear of rejection, spoiling relationships and/or loss of business. Strangely, majority of them had success stories of the past when the best decisions of their lives happened when they stood brave and stuck to their ground.
It is an irony that holding back just procrastinates the action and keeps people stressful till resolution happens. It may be therefore imminent to learn the skill to assert at the times when required and be ready and able to say NO. This art helps and enables people focus and choose priorities and reduce, reschedule tasks that may be lower on importance, resulting into maximum impact.