Sunday, 27 December 2015

‘Reclaim, Reboot, Reset’ – 10 ways you can make your vacation memorable

Ever thought about that customary New Year vacation we’ve always had? Probably, the one, to make family feel happy about, as a ritual? Family and friends, Late night parties, getting up tired and late on day one of the new year, many with a ‘spirited’ hangover, and beginning office with regret and remorse. How does it sound to consider building a vacation calendar this time? Here are 10 points for you to contemplate on;


  1. Switch off all communication devices and commit to personal time, fully. Irrespective of the place, venue or celebration theme, mails, phones and text messages shall keep you in the world you always wanted to leave behind for couple of days.
  2. Commit fully to family, friends; Play with kids, do silly things as you did when you were a child, shop for things you rarely or never would, for fun (Memorabilia, souvenirs, collectibles), crack jokes, unshackle yourself from timelines and schedules. Reclaim your original self, free from worldly encumbrances.
  3. Carry a list of those you missed connecting in routine. Relatives, old friends, and those you would love bridging with. Apologize for the gap and express that you have them in your ‘special list’.
  4. Indulge in moderation; it is great to be freaking out while on a break, it may be a prudent to savour the holiday more holistically than eating too much, pub-crawling or killing sleep/rest.
  5. Build ‘Experiences’; Do a few things you never did. A hiking/trekking, scuba, Para-sail, fishing, exploring local cuisine or market, or, a bout of wine tasting are fewer experiences you may like to carry back for a lifetime.
  6. Spending time with spouse; the closest for nearly everyone are their spouses, the relationship that suffers the most because it gets taken for granted. Communicate with warmth, take a long walk, talk about future and express how the relationship matters to you. This helps healing many scars in the relationship and restores it for long.
  7. Allocate time for ‘Yourself’; allow yourself a quite morning walk, meditate, sit in solitude, see yourself transiting across times mindfully. Do a recap on all the goals you set for yourself and how are you progressing. Think about tweaking, redefining or re-setting the goals as you may wish. Mull over what needs to be changed if you were to reach them. These may not be essentially short term goals like ‘What next Monday after vacation’, or a ‘sales or financial target’, but questions on direction, purpose, sustainability, longevity and relevance of life goals.
  8. A writing pad and a pen may be your best friends on vacation. Write down every morning and evening, your experiences, learning, feelings and all, that made it happen. Think and write about the areas you may need support and resources to sustain it long after the vacation is over.
  9. Commit to a more human change; towards your key goals, decide on, what you would like to ‘realistically’ commit to. Keep changes to a threshold level even if they are baby steps towards your long term goals. For instance ‘Health consciousness’  could be a long term goal while ‘5% weight loss every quarter’ could be a medium term goal, while ‘eating right’/ ‘walking daily’ or ‘de-stressing’, could be a subconsciously pursued daily goal. Resolve to the goal and maintain tenacity while appreciating that the effort is human, and is bound to face distractions initially.
  10. Commit to reward yourself; pamper and lure yourself with a reward, if you made your goals happen. After all, attaining those milestones is no less than ‘great performance’ and deserves an incentive the way it happened at office. The difference is, you would thank your ‘being’ and ‘connect’ more with yourself and the spirit.


In this journey called life, there is a definitive need to re-booting oneself in all aspects, be it emotionally, physical, spiritual, family and relationships. So this time while you may be planning your vacation, ensure you make it a memorable one, the one that helps you come back and take it on with positivity and purpose. So, here is wishing you a very joyful holiday and best wishes for the  New Year 2016 !!


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Sunday, 20 December 2015

Beyond work and Life, it’s about being ‘Alive’!!

Many of my clients have this common expression about feeling choked with work occupying on their mind all the time. The most common symptoms described are neglecting health, negativity, low self-esteem, caught up in comparison, relationship and loss of purpose.


Many of us tend to trivialize our most loved pursuits that they have been passionate or happy about, eventually learn to live without them, while pursuing the worldly, yet undesired. Over years, we develop comfort with chaos and ‘noise’, and begin ‘labeling’ it as ‘lifestyle’, till it begins to hurt and we stray on innate, latent life goals. What begins as excitement, dithers over time and rational prevails. The void pushes one to high levels of anxiety, fear, uncertainty and conflicts. ‘Glorification’ of ‘busy’ becomes unproductive.


Work and Life can’t exist in isolation, at least over long time. The justification of not ‘living’ holistically may be self-defeating. By ‘Life’, I mean having fewer or many friends, great family life, sufficient recreation, prudent lifestyle and responsibility for actions, high awareness of self and environment, a happy being, positive influences, well balanced priorities and time for everything. It not just about life, it is about being alive, being excited for things beyond the obvious. Sounds like little too much?


This isn’t esoteric or utopian at all, though fewer people achieve this over time with conscious effort and mindfulness, crossing short term blocks of cynicism, doubt, fear or overconfidence. I, for one, know some real life heroes, a successful senior executive who has time for health, relationships, and spirituality and he goes out of the way to attain this balance. Another entrepreneur that I work with, is actively managing business, yet practicing detachment, and building succession over time, breaking barriers, and detaching from past. A doctor, who has ambitious goals in philanthropy after 23 years of successful professional success, and has committed time to it every day. If real life heroes fail to inspire, consider Liam Neeson, the lead in French blockbuster ‘Taken’, who signed up this movie only for his passion to live and see France, and learn Karate for three months.


Work and Life are not metaphors of conflicting facets of life, they co-exist, and complement each other. After all, a happy life is all about being holistic.


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Thursday, 3 December 2015

Here is why accountability works

Raj (Name changed) started his career more than two decades ago as a trainee with a large company. Having achieved above average growth with his hard work and performance, he climbed up the ladder up to a leadership role with a large corporate house.


This is where the headwinds and tailwinds started, and a fairly decent performer in Raj began to shake up. Having been comfortable with organic growth, and being at right place at right time never germinated an urge to fortify his skills, or to learn/develop a few other genres that have been his latent talents, and, above all, his longing passion that remained subdued under his material pursuits. When I first met up with him, he was neck deep in frustration and negativity, poor emotional quotient and sensitivity towards people around him.


It did not surprise me when I heard from him about high attrition in his team, lack of trust with supervisors, and insecurity that kept him cocooned for a while. He had issues with irregular/stressed lifestyle, health and finances. One thing that I could see as his strength was his determination to come out of this cobweb, by accepting accountability for his actions. It was about 8-10 sessions later that he regained control, and has already begun preparing for his next big pursuit.


It does feel very lonely on top, but with a supportive coach under an accountable relationship, it is possible to create much more life than we live, break barriers of limitations, fears or perceptual blocks. As I write this, Raj heads operations of a pharmaceutical company.


Jatin (Name changed) is an entrepreneur who began his business with hopes and dreams more than a decade ago. Having seen upswings and downturns of the market and business, he was in delirium on many issues relating to work life balance, business scale, efficiencies, business structuring, mitigation, playing to, or, contra to markets. His education that culminated long ago hardly helped as he was in business poles apart from what he was qualified for. In the midst of uncertainty; he struggled for a while to pursue his business goals.


Having worked with him over last six months, there is some visibility on the way forward, and we are closely working to build a strong succession plan, his personal efficiency and holistic lifestyle, competencies and diversity in business. He does acknowledge that the risks with entrepreneurs is very high, and success depends on his ability to cognitively build on his journey, adapt to environmental changes and operate with deep sense of balance and detachment.


It is for a variety of reasons, people ignore early signals, or keep procrastinating till the point of no return. As experiences become dysfunctional, creating patterns or limiting behaviours, it may be a good idea to deal with them head on, and achieve fulfilment in one’s life pursuits.


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Tuesday, 1 December 2015

Mindfulness – Attain your homeostasis

We are born alike, but each one of us is different. We have inherited legacies of social, educational, family, cultural and racial diversity, while the other part is developed over time and experience. As a part of my coaching practice, I get a chance to meet individuals with megalomania of financial, professional, and material success, and on the other hand, depression from social, health, spiritual, family and efficiency failures.


Having had intense, deep conversations with my clients around the subject, I realized that each one of us has his own version and scale of equilibrium, and all of us explore it dynamically with many moving parts around our lives. The tailwinds of Influences, stereotypes, cloning, group-think and conflicts distract and push people off-track from their life pursuits.  


Learning and practicing mindfulness keeps us from drifting away from our state of homeostasis. It is about being in the moment, and living through not just external, but even internal distractors. Those who master it, are more likely to stay on course, successfully reaching self-defined destinations. It is this homeostasis that helps fearlessly pursuing dreams and goals, and living a life to the fullest potential. A coach is what it takes to discover, explore and reinvent, a new you.


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Monday, 9 November 2015

Look at life from the finishing line

These words from Steve Jobs can move many. The reason why living a holistically fulfilling life is important..knowing your destination, direction, resources, speed and milestones.

"Steve Jobs’ Last Words -

I reached the pinnacle of success in the business world.
In others’ eyes, my life is an epitome of success.

However, aside from work, I have little joy. In the end, wealth is only a fact of life that I am accustomed to.

At this moment, lying on the sick bed and recalling my whole life, I realize that all the recognition and wealth that I took so much pride in, have paled and become meaningless in the face of impending death.

In the darkness, I look at the green lights from the life supporting machines and hear the humming mechanical sounds, I can feel the breath of god of death drawing closer…

Now I know, when we have accumulated sufficient wealth to last our lifetime, we should pursue other matters that are unrelated to wealth…
Should be something that is more important:

Perhaps relationships, perhaps art, perhaps a dream from younger days ...
Non-stop pursuing of wealth will only turn a person into a twisted being, just like me.

God gave us the senses to let us feel the love in everyone’s heart, not the illusions brought about by wealth.

The wealth I have won in my life I cannot bring with me.
What I can bring is only the memories precipitated by love.
That’s the true riches which will follow you, accompany you, giving you strength and light to go on.

Love can travel a thousand miles. Life has no limit. Go where you want to go. Reach the height you want to reach. It is all in your heart and in your hands.
What is the most expensive bed in the world? - "Sick bed" …

You can employ someone to drive the car for you, make money for you but you cannot have someone to bear the sickness for you.
Material things lost can be found. But there is one thing that can never be found when it is lost – "Life".

When a person goes into the operating room, he will realize that there is one book that he has yet to finish reading – "Book of Healthy Life".

Whichever stage in life we are at right now, with time, we will face the day when the curtain comes down.

Treasure Love for your family, love for your spouse, love for your friends...

Treat yourself well. Cherish others."

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Thursday, 29 October 2015

Negotiating ominous changes

"Every player wants to retire at the top of his international game. Had I also retired while playing international cricket, I could have given a retirement speech, but fate had something else in store for me"…”Sachin Tendulkar stopped me from retiring in 2007”

- Virender Sehwag, in an interview around his trifling/soft exit from International cricket.


Sehwag has always been a coveted asset in Indian cricket, and enjoyed ovation from thousands of spectators every time he walked in out of the ground. He has had consummate achievements in International cricket but, ironically, like Sachin, his exit was not what any hero would like it to be.


If life is an evolution, a journey with consistent change as a constant, how can goals be stagnant? Think of parallels between Sehwag’s story and many we witness in different walks of life, be it business, politics, profession or others. The success trajectory remains favorable and consistent for few while elusive for a most. Not just individuals, organizations suffer similar phenomenon and face consequences..


Surprising enough is the fact that most get signals much earlier than the D-day. These signals call for recognizing and negotiating forthcoming changes that seem temporarily ominous. Inertia, procrastination, lack of pro-action, laziness, overconfidence, lack of accountability, inapt attitude, disrespecting power of time and environmental changes keeps people from addressing what seems obvious. It is similar closing eyes and believing that storms have stopped. What temporarily seems like a ‘milking’ opportunity, becomes a meaningless pursuit for the undesired.


What results is remorse, frustration, emotional trauma and low self- esteem for a lifetime beyond a point in time. Externalizing may only be a vehicle to keep responsibility for self- action somewhere else.


Happiness is one’s own sphere, and thus self-defined. Thoughtful, conscious, mindful discovery of these goals that lead one to happiness last for a lifetime and assign a new meaning to an individual, holistically.


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Thursday, 8 October 2015

Let it all go, See what stays

I have been trying to apprehend for a while, what causes happiness (not to be confused with success at all) and holistic growth. It is quite metaphorical why people begin to flutter and fumble with reasonable success and find it difficult to move on slickly. I have been, therefore carefully observing one extremely important gauge in my area of entrepreneur and executive coaching, scalability & sustainability.


The two are quite intertwined and interchangeable. Following the golden rule, ‘You can do anything, but not everything’, scalability and sustainability require constant change in quantum and quality of goals, and therefore shedding many past patterns.


Over time, the emotional, social, professional, financial or relationship acquisitions become perceptual ‘assets’, giving a false sense of ownership, or sometimes sticky obsession, and this is where serious issues emerge. Inefficiency, drainage, clogging, negativity are natural fall-outs of such obsession, and it is common to see people growing into ‘control freaks’. This almost is like a bulky rock tied to one swimming against the tide.

It is only those who learn to take a deep breath, learn to control the instinct to hold on to uncontrollable, shed unproductive/irrelevant ownership, observe with neutrality, and attain focus on what needs it the most create sustainability, scalability and stay relevant over longer time. It is about cutting clutter, negotiating turbulence and striving to discover and attain a favorable jet stream, leading one to self-defined homeostasis. Letting go is moving on, towards positive goals that are scalable and sustainable.


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Wednesday, 16 September 2015

Power of Accountability

The power of accountability

Monday, 3 August 2015


Time flies!! One full year since this journey began. Over 10,000 visits on , over hundred blogs with 15000 page views on , 75% clients expressing numerical improvement in  self- rated scores, 83% satisfaction rating, 65% referrals are a story by themselves. Two years ago, my instructors and mentors at coaching school kept telling me, ‘Coaching works’, and I, on the other side of the table, wondered ‘how’, situation similar to my patronizing clients who, even now, keep asking me as their ‘first’ question.

It’s been an adventurous excursion, much more exciting than I thought it would be, and much more fulfilling than my 26 years of corporate career from a trainee to a spearhead. Each session increasingly satiated me as a human being, relishing the sense of relief, resolution and forward movement that was reflected in the smiles clients exuded. My belief and conviction on ‘Doing’ strengthened more than ever before, as I witnessed many engaged clients overcoming varied barriers, some with discipline, and some with expected struggle, but still moving forward. Some personal, others distant, but each conversation continues to be very close to my heart.

More than anything, what I always revered was their courage to step out of what they thought was mundane and deserved to be replaced with lasting positive action. Being fully appreciative of their valiant effort and trust, I truly thank all of them for not only making it happen for them, but also letting me learn so much from all that they had, that brought them where they are. I applaud for their pro-action, that, very few are able to conceive and initiate.

My heartfelt gratitude to those I could not engage with, or, they could not make up their mind for a coaching engagement. I take this opportunity to urge them to seek some mutually accountable relationships supportive of their growth and life goals with someone, sometime later. We live only once, and it may be a good idea to do it well. I stay committed to the cause.

Reinforcing my resolve to help many more individuals through this transcendent, action driven learning theme, I remain grateful for all that happened during this magnificent journey. A humble thank you once again!!

Ten Tell-tale signs of being stuck

Having traversed through 27 years of my professional journey ,I have been wondering why people do not realize by themselves when they are stuck. It is kind of numbness to an area in pain that doesn’t travel to the mind and keeps growing till the time it grows into a irretrievable one. Here are some tell- tale signs to diagnose if you are stuck;

  1. The results of every new attempt mirror the earlier one. This may indicate that resources or actions have got on to follow a pattern that needs to be broken.
  2. Frequent rejection of ideas. At high rate of rejection, virtually everything inward begins to find its way to the dustbin. The existing practice or prevalent systems occupy mind space, not letting new ones getting tested. Ridicule replaces reception.
  3. Excessive fears take over the original behaviour. Fear of losing, fear of social perception, fear of not being oneself with change, unending materialistic focus that disrupts stable resolution.
  4. Caught up in time bands; beginning the day with an end of day imagery. Hallucinating about smooth passage of the day at work. Losing excitement about work.
  5. Getting hyper- critical about all that is positive around. Playing down everything worth appreciating. Increased proximity with like thinking negative set of people.
  6. Unable or unwilling to vent out with peers, supervisors, or family. This is when a pressure cooker situation begins to build up. Social withdrawal begins to show up.
  7. Non admittance of the ‘real issue’, living in denial. Hesitation to accept and move on forces people to be stuck. Reinforcement of this behaviour for long, makes it worse.
  8. Posturing; when false external projection of sincerity and integrity is higher in magnitude than actual action. The forward movement could be minimalistic or negligible.  Apologetic behaviour on not keeping commitment repeatedly, is common in such cases.
  9. Being too casual about issues that need attention; Over confidence, recklessness or even deliberate self-sabotaging of a change initiative. This might be indicative of strong comfort zones that may be professional, financial, health, or social. Reaction is bound to be in the offing when external circumstances begin to force change.
  10. Loss of passion and self- esteem. Downplaying oneself and hallucinate in a cocoon is a common symptom.

I thought of articulating this, as most people I meet, related to my coaching practice, remain centred around ‘what’s wrong with me?’ It is the time that can favour you or otherwise, in the process of initiating a change. Wish to share some clues and seek intervention? Write to or call +91 9893222222.

Sunday, 5 July 2015

Learning from Grexit threat

Global markets are rattled with the uncertainty that a potential Grexit poses. Here are a few quick leanings one can make out of this historic economic and political crisis;

1. Being pro-active: The crisis has been simmering for a long time with a clearly visible outcome that got confirmed yesterday. The political and economic action procrastinated for long till this eventually reached an irretrievable point. Many decisions at our workplace need proactive action.

2. Unity is strength: the concept of EU is becoming increasingly questionable, as, for the sake of unity, a non conforming member remained a threat,bubbling under.  The contagion offers a risk of  other EU nations falling prey to separatist philosophy. All team members at our workplace must deliver results, measured separately, and not just the team results.

3. Common minimum values: 17 nations co-existing in one union needs alignment that seemed to be missing in case of Greece, and for long.ECB and EU kept negotiating for long till they are now being cornered by the referendum. Leadership must align stakeholders to stay committed to organizational values.

4. Austerity is important: Greece denying any further austerity measures despite crisis is a stubborn behavior. Not just in the times of crisis, but at all times, rational austerity is the biggest lesson of this crisis. At both organizational and individual level, making rational decisions on costs and finances is non negotiable. Over leveraging of any kind could be detrimental.

5. Leadership influence: Greek leadership had the responsibility to pursue a rational outcome from the nation. Organizations need strong leaders to drive their vision till the last mile. Weakness at leadership level can have disastrous consequences.

Such historic events offer a huge opportunity to learn and applying the same could make us experientially richer. Need help on some common threads in your organization? or call 9893222222

Tuesday, 30 June 2015

Patience – an essential virtue for change

“It is easier to find men who would volunteer to die, than to find those who are willing to endure pain with patience” – Julius Caesar

It is common to see people exhibiting extreme comportments. Some do not care, or dare, to change till something externally forces them to change, while the others who are anxious for change and expect to change behaviours faster than anything they have done in life. While the former do not initiate actions at all waiting for the self-defined ‘opportune’ time, the latter apparently start very fast (with or without ‘action’, or ‘doing’), searching for short cuts and facing disappointments, only to give up on the change effort.

Learning is a slow process, and in coaching one attempts to change sticky behaviours and patterns developed over time that have been rehearsed, reinforced and lived with, for long time. They are tried, tested and considered ever relevant as they pierce into comfort zones, and become what we call, beliefs. It is extremely important to be patient with change, and that requires conscious effort, consistent determination, high awareness, measurement and self- control. Change breaks comfort zones, causes discomfort in many aspects (Physical, mental, emotional, social and sometimes financial) and pushes one back very hard towards the comfort zone, which is backward movement.

Only those who can be patient and persevere through the process of change can successfully change or replace the pre-existing subconscious programs. Change takes time. Accepting reality and setting realistic goals certainly keeps one on track, and not lose sight of the greener pastures in the result zone. It is only the effort zone that people need to navigate with perseverance and practice.

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Friday, 12 June 2015

The power of accountability

Most people who succeed in their initiatives, have one thing in common, and that is accountability. Being responsible and answerable to the end result is something that keeps them on track and make course correction, while staying put and persevering on the task.

Simplest example is an alarm that gives a wakeup call every morning, reinforcing need to get up and stick to a routine morning task, say a walk, or exercise. Even on the days when people feel lazy, this follows and there are high chances that one sticks to the routine. Such behaviour is learnt over a period of time and gets ingrained as a new program, and that slowly builds up into a new habit of getting up well in time even if the alarm doesn’t ring.

All self- initiated, self- diagnosed or self- driven change initiatives fail, as, accountability to self gets soon overtaken by the powerful force within, the comfort zone. It is for this reason, accountability partners are required in most areas, be it health, finances, professional, behavioural or life change. Managers/Supervisors become accountability centres in companies while entrepreneurs choose their accountability centres within or outside of families.

The rationale is simple, which is to commit to an initiative, commit to hold yourself accountable to ‘someone’. Who is that someone, is a matter of trust, choice and his competence. Unless this accountability keep one on track, and keep his culpability on results, change initiatives are more likely to slip and move away from the desired direction.

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Monday, 8 June 2015

Avoiding appraisal surprises

It is common for teams to complain of ambiguity in the appraisal process, while leadership blames naivety and unrealistic expectations of teams at the appraisal desk. The struggle and confrontation  goes on and organizations suffer the consequences in terms of attrition, disengagement and disgruntled teams, causing both tactical and strategic damage to the cultural hygiene and performance. Research indicates over 70% Executives and entrepreneurs strongly feel that it is the most stressful time of the year (Industrial Psychology Journal, 2012).


Leaders, whether Executives or Entrepreneurs, need to be sensitive to the idea of consistent coaching at work, as the ingrained, unsaid skillset that they need to deliver as a mandatory hygiene factor. It is common to see most leaders doing what they like, or what excites/occupy them the most. Be it inefficient duplication, micro management, or their inability to perform tasks as good as people meant for it. Obsession (often confused with passion) tends to occupy routines, functions and therefore results. It is therefore vital to understand leadership has to consistently build on to the coaching effort, and, in fact, large part of their time needs to be invested in this area. Here are five critical functions leaders need to adhere to;


Development: Developing is about transferring skills and experiences, and not hoarding information that never gets shared for organizational benefit. It’s about creation of learning opportunities irrespective of method, conceptual or experiential. It is about any value addition that helps teams to produce an alpha.


Relationships: Subconsciously, we build, sustain and fortify relationships. Nearly 80% of time is invested on relationships. This ensures fearless culture and people do not hesitate to raise hand when they need help or support. It is an effort to build transparent and mutually respectable behavioural norms, and eventually a bridge.


Direction: This is about clarifying without ambiguity, on, where is the business or the team goal headed, what is how teams can contribute, time and measurable milestones in the journey, how would results look like, and what are the acceptable behaviours expected from the teams. These need to be reinforced repeatedly.


Accountability: Once the norms are set, it is important to create opportunities and willingness to share and accept honest, constructive feedback. Without accountability, it is likely that performance would drift.


Results: The effort has to end in a result and more often than not, the planned or course corrected result. The attribution of result, appreciation, and, ratings have to follow at appraisal meetings.


This ensures that there is a little room for surprises on either side when it comes to appraisal process as the outcomes become more predictable and certain. Seek help in building managerial coaching competencies? Visit or call +91 9893222222

Friday, 5 June 2015

The swamp of external expectations

I meet quite a few entrepreneurs and executives putting their happiness at stake, living year after year in the mould that they never wanted to, from their inner self. The pretence of wellness costs them dear on their social, financial, professional, spiritual and health fronts. The culprit is not their skill or competence, but lack of their willingness to action what they think is good for them, for the sake of posturing to the external world, and exhibiting their ‘Control’.


This transition is not sudden in most, but a result of years of subtle submission to competition with external world, or finding emotional security amidst the applause over time. Unknowingly, people get sucked into it. This begin to build a concrete wall of these self-learnt, and constantly reinforced/rehearsed behaviours, that become very tough to break even they are contextually inappropriate. They resemble swamps, where, the more one tries to escape, the deeper one sinks. Inertia looms large on decisions that are internally desired or driven.


They are not damaging only at individual level, but they affect organizations as silent killers of culture, efficiency and eventually, results. Very low or no attrition, legacy heavy structures and innovation devoid cultures are tell-tale signs of managing external expectations, both within and outside the organizations. These can prove to be fatal in the long run to the intellectual, cultural and financial health of the organizations.

The biggest barrier to coming out of such situations is self- inflicted ‘ego’ and resistance to accepting the reality under external pressures. Only those, who have an ability to be themselves, and reconcile with their inner self, stand a chance to win over and discover their happier inner self. For professional help, visit or call +91 9893222222

Wednesday, 3 June 2015

Exterminating dysfunctional behaviours

As humans, we like homeostasis, any change in the way we behave, live, or respond is a pattern unique to each individual. Many a people discover implications of such sticky behaviors, and also develop conviction to change them. A drive that begins at a high magnitude slowly dies down or weakens, unless it is tied up with accountability and strong motivation in the individual. It may be realistic to understand that these are difficult to change.


These limiting behaviours develop over a long time, and having tasted success in a different context, become comfort zones with hardened beliefs. It is only a matter of time that they tend to become obsolete, but more and more difficult to change with passage of time and change of context.


While dealing with such stubborn subconscious behaviors, people tend to make a good start but only those, who attain threshold on their effort, succeed. These behaviors are like a nail being pulled out of magnetic field, and unless it crosses the effect of magnetic field successfully, it gets haunted and affected by the magnetic field. Most people lose on the change effort midway due to complacence, inertia, overconfidence, self-diagnosis and ridicule. This failure causes complete reversal or relapse, and in most cases, worse than before.


Keeping faith, accountability, willingness, professional help and self- discipline are necessary to stay on course, and it is imminent that one makes effort with very high integrity when one decides to begin.


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Sunday, 17 May 2015

Choosing to break out

Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life – J.K.Rowling


“I am fortunate to have a Coach like Dr. Alok Purohit, and shall always be. I was going through my lowest low in my career and had opportunity of coaching sessions by him. He has terrific insight into people and helped me to diagnose and empowered me to fix them my way. His follow up is amazing, and goes much beyond professional engagement. His level of understanding is beyond imagination and above all, he is very humble. His practical approach and wisdom makes him stand above all.”

Best luck.. Abhinav Sonwalkar


This endorsement made my day today morning. Professionally least expected from someone who I engaged with, with few months ago, but strong semblance of trust and honesty he had all this while to write this for me. It takes courage to admit and accept someone’s contribution to our cause, and more than that, to endorse with name. I have though changed the name for non- negotiable professional values.


The story is a memoire’ and a distinct record in my mind, for, he walked in deep sense of despondence, facing crisis in his career at senior managerial position. Living in a self- built comfort zone for long, lost account of many other collateral damages that happened as a side effect of professional mediocrity. A long wait before resolution of the conflicts he had been living with, resulted in sticky negative thoughts and relapsing of dysfunctional blocks. The situation was nearly alarming as I do not remember any client travelling into the town and camping for three days. Even the intensive 5 hour a day sessions I would rarely do with any client.


The results were mind blowing. We could co-create some action points that were completely owned by the client and acted to perfection. It was 18 days that the plan fetched results, and he was back with a bang. A new assignment, new perspective at work and determination to work on his sharp edges to take control is what he returned back with. While this was a tactical solution that helped fix immediate issues, it was representative enough of the efficacy of self- determination aided by coaching effort. I did not have a magic wand but clients effort paid off. While I know that if ignored, the older behaviours would tend to relapse, I wish him well in his endeavours.


The take-outs are as follows;

  1. Do not hesitate to ask for help when one cannot manage a situation himself
  2. Deciding not to live with inhibitions and breaking out of the orbit by initiating change and act on it.
  3. In deepest of disappointments, their lies an opportunity to bounce back, while it is not advisable to wait. All such situations may not be retrievable.
  4. Never leave change effort in between. Antipyretics can cure fever but you need antibiotics to cure the root, the infection.


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Thursday, 14 May 2015

Lessons from a young entrepreneur

I have had an opportunity to meet a young entrepreneur few days ago and it was quite a discovery. Nimble mind, openness to new ideas and appetite to take risk with no blocks or barriers, were all that I practically learnt from him. Most looked like those that I could relate to a decade or earlier ago with many entrepreneurs at their peak of success.

What looked even amazing was that a subject like personal coaching got discussed at length, non committal ( and I was quite happy at that) with sufficient maturity and absorption for more than an hour. The lucidity of expectation, and what it might do to his business and himself, was so clear that even I was overwhelmed by a potential client like that. At 28 years of age the guy has already explored three spaces for business...right or wrong.. But the guy seemed like chasing his dreams incessantly.

Extremely motivating as it seemed, it was More of a life lesson for me. After all, all of us live only once..and living under depression, suppression and helplessness will only lead us to a miserable memory of our past, when we could, but did not change anything to move our orbit. Three cheers to the guy, and the spirit !!

Salutations to the spirit from ..and we will keep learning from such guys and keep helping many entrepreneurs in their journeys. Call 9893222222 if you may seek help in your endeavors.

Wednesday, 6 May 2015

Efficacy of coaching

Do share this. This cites 5 big examples of coaching ROI is very high as it impacts key performance points on the org structure.

Ridicule: The biggest barrier to change

I have been wondering for last few years, recalling many I knew, and what has been the common thread that was visible among a vast majority. It took me to arrive at only one word, and that is “Ridicule”. This is one such negative behaviour that tries to run down someone else’s efforts or results and dilutes it by creating a pre-conceived perceptual block to avoid break their internal inhibitions. These may be out of complexes, insecurities or comfort zones, that people tend to oversee the results of being appreciative of any such interpersonal opportunities.

Such dysfunction tends to build a strong and sticky wall as a barrier to learning and change, even if were to be beneficial for such individuals. These become repetitive reactions and many a times, knowing that ridiculing shall not do any good, they still end up ridiculing, for, their subconscious minds get trained to respond like that.

It is common to see this behaviour through casual body language, overconfidence, avoidance and pre-matured judgement or inferences. It is imperative to be mindful of such sticky behaviours and work consciously to manage them well in time before they begin to inflict damage to overall personality. Want to know more and willing to work on it? Call 9893222222 or visit

Saturday, 25 April 2015

The power of incongruence

Pro-action to build adaptability to any change always confronts resistance as the first barrier, since, as human beings, we find solace and peace in our comfort zones. Mentally, physically, emotionally and even physiologically we typify such propensities. Consider some practical examples from daily lives;

  1. We think we can manage to do something well, and continue with sameness, building a pattern and restrict dexterity. Irrelevant beliefs, lack of innovative or different thinking, and predictable responses result into plateaued results.
  2. We repeat same routines in physical effort, say exercising, only to discover we are stuck and not moving forward with weight loss, or stamina.
  3. We find it comforting to adjust with deteriorating relationships, and sometimes unproductive relationships just because we have been with them for long, and never thought of re-calibrating them, or thinking of developing new ones.
  4. Patterned diet programs with no or little room for variation, tend to build metabolic inertia, and we lose adaptability to cope up with any change to such routines.

It is therefore imminent that incongruence is inevitable part of growth journey. In order to keep some discomfort by design, newer, different, higher gradient thinking and ideation (incongruent in short) is important to induce adaptation and growth. There are examples of organizations that have cultivated incongruent thinking for innovation, and many individual examples of success in personal transformation, sports, and levels of inner awakening.

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Sunday, 19 April 2015

Mindfulness – A key to successful behavioral modification

Many of us want to break patterns. Those that have flattened the trajectory of our results for some time, and, despite magnitude and quality of effort, end up producing similar outcomes. The major problem is that people are aware of their conscious beliefs and behaviors, but not of subconscious beliefs and behaviors.

Most people don’t even acknowledge that their subconscious mind is at play, when the fact is that the subconscious mind is a million times more powerful than the conscious mind and that we operate 95 to 99 percent of our lives from subconscious programs.

Studies have proven that our subconscious beliefs are working either for or against us, but the truth is that we are not controlling our life, because our subconscious mind supersedes all conscious control. This is part of the reason why I’m such a big believer in methods that alter subconscious beliefs.

Researchers do not yet know how or when, exactly, unconscious drives may suddenly become conscious; or under which circumstances people are able to override hidden urges by force of will. Millions have quit smoking, for instance, and uncounted numbers have resisted darker urges to misbehave that they don’t even fully understand.

Yet the new research on priming makes it clear that we are not alone in our own consciousness. We have company, an invisible partner who has strong reactions about the world that don’t always agree with our own, but whose instincts, these studies clearly show, are at least as likely to be helpful, and attentive to others, as they are to be disruptive. Being mindful of such subconscious programs is the only way to at least make a good effort and increase the degree of success with our own behaviors, and to be successful, one needs to develop mindfulness over a period of time.
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