Monday, 3 August 2015
Time flies!! One full year since this journey began. Over 10,000 visits on www.thegrowthevangelist.com , over hundred blogs with 15000 page views on alokepurohit.blogspot.in , 75% clients expressing numerical improvement in self- rated scores, 83% satisfaction rating, 65% referrals are a story by themselves. Two years ago, my instructors and mentors at coaching school kept telling me, ‘Coaching works’, and I, on the other side of the table, wondered ‘how’, situation similar to my patronizing clients who, even now, keep asking me as their ‘first’ question.
It’s been an adventurous excursion, much more exciting than I thought it would be, and much more fulfilling than my 26 years of corporate career from a trainee to a spearhead. Each session increasingly satiated me as a human being, relishing the sense of relief, resolution and forward movement that was reflected in the smiles clients exuded. My belief and conviction on ‘Doing’ strengthened more than ever before, as I witnessed many engaged clients overcoming varied barriers, some with discipline, and some with expected struggle, but still moving forward. Some personal, others distant, but each conversation continues to be very close to my heart.
More than anything, what I always revered was their courage to step out of what they thought was mundane and deserved to be replaced with lasting positive action. Being fully appreciative of their valiant effort and trust, I truly thank all of them for not only making it happen for them, but also letting me learn so much from all that they had, that brought them where they are. I applaud for their pro-action, that, very few are able to conceive and initiate.
My heartfelt gratitude to those I could not engage with, or, they could not make up their mind for a coaching engagement. I take this opportunity to urge them to seek some mutually accountable relationships supportive of their growth and life goals with someone, sometime later. We live only once, and it may be a good idea to do it well. I stay committed to the cause.
Reinforcing my resolve to help many more individuals through this transcendent, action driven learning theme, I remain grateful for all that happened during this magnificent journey. A humble thank you once again!!
Having traversed through 27 years of my professional journey ,I have been wondering why people do not realize by themselves when they are stuck. It is kind of numbness to an area in pain that doesn’t travel to the mind and keeps growing till the time it grows into a irretrievable one. Here are some tell- tale signs to diagnose if you are stuck;
- The results of every new attempt mirror the earlier one. This may indicate that resources or actions have got on to follow a pattern that needs to be broken.
- Frequent rejection of ideas. At high rate of rejection, virtually everything inward begins to find its way to the dustbin. The existing practice or prevalent systems occupy mind space, not letting new ones getting tested. Ridicule replaces reception.
- Excessive fears take over the original behaviour. Fear of losing, fear of social perception, fear of not being oneself with change, unending materialistic focus that disrupts stable resolution.
- Caught up in time bands; beginning the day with an end of day imagery. Hallucinating about smooth passage of the day at work. Losing excitement about work.
- Getting hyper- critical about all that is positive around. Playing down everything worth appreciating. Increased proximity with like thinking negative set of people.
- Unable or unwilling to vent out with peers, supervisors, or family. This is when a pressure cooker situation begins to build up. Social withdrawal begins to show up.
- Non admittance of the ‘real issue’, living in denial. Hesitation to accept and move on forces people to be stuck. Reinforcement of this behaviour for long, makes it worse.
- Posturing; when false external projection of sincerity and integrity is higher in magnitude than actual action. The forward movement could be minimalistic or negligible. Apologetic behaviour on not keeping commitment repeatedly, is common in such cases.
- Being too casual about issues that need attention; Over confidence, recklessness or even deliberate self-sabotaging of a change initiative. This might be indicative of strong comfort zones that may be professional, financial, health, or social. Reaction is bound to be in the offing when external circumstances begin to force change.
- Loss of passion and self- esteem. Downplaying oneself and hallucinate in a cocoon is a common symptom.
I thought of articulating this, as most people I meet, related to my coaching practice, remain centred around ‘what’s wrong with me?’ It is the time that can favour you or otherwise, in the process of initiating a change. Wish to share some clues and seek intervention? Write to www.thegrowthevangelist.com or call +91 9893222222.